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Old November 9th, 2012, 05:25 PM   #11

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It's a little pat on the back to let us know we've done good. .
Then there are the 'suck up' compliments that are the cheapest kind.
Often those in power get those from the lower masses, not out of
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of the bread. I'd rather eat plain bread than fake compliments when
the person(s) don't deserve them.
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Old November 9th, 2012, 05:32 PM   #12

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I am someone who receives a lot of compliments about my performance at work. I am not really a self confident person in many situations, and that is one of them. I feel embarrassed when I am complimented, but yet I still crave that very recognition. How screwed up is that?
Screwed up? I think that is very honest reflective statement to make on a forum. That is something i do appreciate considerably. A very good quality to have.
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Old November 9th, 2012, 05:38 PM   #13
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Screwed up? I think that is very honest reflective statement to make on a forum. That is something i do appreciate considerably. A very good quality to have.
Thank you Panthera. How does it make you feel when you are complimented, especially if it is over something you are supposed to be able to do?
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Old November 9th, 2012, 05:39 PM   #14

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I tried to walk out of work unnoticed, it did not work as someone said why am I not saying good bye. I think sometimes we forget to be polite towards each other.
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Old November 9th, 2012, 05:59 PM   #15

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Thank you Panthera. How does it make you feel when you are complimented, especially if it is over something you are supposed to be able to do?
Your welcome. Well, the first emotion i feel is one of embarrassment followed with my thanking them for going out of their way to positively acknowledge a task i had accomplished, no matter how trivial it may appear to me. I guess, the fact that when people give unsolicited praise means that they do value a contribution much more so than we are obviously aware of. At times like that, I think, an acknowledgment ought to be cherished rather than analyzed and deconstructed to a mere triviality.
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Old November 9th, 2012, 05:59 PM   #16

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Then there are the 'suck up' compliments that are the cheapest kind.
Often those in power get those from the lower masses, not out of
respect, but out of knowing it is always good to butter the right side
of the bread. I'd rather eat plain bread than fake compliments when
the person(s) don't deserve them.
Good point Does that mean that those in power also perform better, because of all the insincere suck-up compliments they receive...?
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Old November 9th, 2012, 06:04 PM   #17

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Good point Does that mean that those in power also perform better, because of all the insincere suck-up compliments they receive...?
No. Even when the compliments come in the form of currency.
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Old November 9th, 2012, 06:07 PM   #18

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Good point Does that mean that those in power also perform better, because of all the insincere suck-up compliments they receive...?
No, they just carry on what they were doing before, whether it was good or bad.
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Old November 9th, 2012, 06:15 PM   #19

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One reason why they mean so much is because others are mirrors to us. A compliment is like favourable lighting shining upon our reflection.
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Good point Does that mean that those in power also perform better, because of all the insincere suck-up compliments they receive...?
Yes, if they are worthy of such praise. That is a fallacy of society that has taken hold recently. We think that just because our leaders are idiots, then all people who lead, whether they are middle management or whatever, are idiots. The truth is that the middle managers of society were always the ones who took us on the right course towards prosperity.
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